So the new baby is on the way, and all I keep thinking is that it won’t be just the three of us anymore.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m excited about welcoming this new little one next spring.
But at the same time I feel nostalgic over the change this will bring to our family.
It won’t just be our little family of three anymore. We’re so small and cozy right now. This is the way it’s always been for the last four years. All our time, all our attention is focused completely on David. And it’s been such a sweet time watching him grow and learn. Getting to know him.
Now everything will be different.
I know we can manage two kids, and I know our family has plenty of love to share with one more. But it seems like a certain amount of intimacy will be lost when there’s four instead of three.
Last week was had several unusually warm November days, and I made sure David and I were outside taking advantage of it. My mind kept looking ahead to next year when it would be warm again. And I thought to myself, “This is one of the last times it will be just you and I playing together on a warm day.”
Oh, I don’t know. Maybe it’s just the hormones, the morning sickness and the fatigue that’s making me so sentimental.
Maybe it’s because I’m an only child, and I don’t have any personal point of reference for this.
So am I crazy or did any of you feel this way when child number two was on the way?
You’re not crazy! It is kinda sad losing all your one on one time. I had plenty of time between my kids, so I wasn’t really sad. I was glad I would have someone to cuddle with again.
What you’re feeling is perfectly normal. I remember feeling guilty for knowing I wouldn’t have that one-on-one time with my first anymore… but then when your second little one comes along, you just can’t imagine family life any other way. And you always manage to find one-on-one time with each of your kids 🙂 Soon you’ll be a cozy little family of four!!
I felt the same way. I actually would cry almost every night for about 2 weeks up to having my 2nd. I only wanted 1 daughter though, so I loved my 3 person family.
Once my 2nd came though, wow what a difference. I of course loved her instantly & she totally fit in within the first week or two. Now I couldn’t imagine my life without her! I actually get a long better with her then my oldest, we click better. (nothing against my oldest, we are too much alike & get along more like sisters, lol)
Anyways, totally normal. Those pregnancy hormones are crazy & it is a big change.
It’s normal to be nervous about change!
It is just different, but better. There comes a time when even the kids need some alone time. Don’t get me wrong…it is a delicate balance act.
You’re not alone. I’m expecting my second in April, and my son is six years old. He’s used to having mama’s undivided attention, and even though he’s old enough to understand that the baby won’t be able to do many things alone and will need lots of time and attention and room to grow, I worry that he’ll be resentful of not having me to himself anymore. I’m an only child, too.
And now I’m thinking about this and I might cry. Dang hormones. LOL
i COMPLETELY understand. completely. i have those same feelings and then i feel guilty b/c i am so excited about this new life but then i think about cora and the sweet times we have together and then….it just goes on and on. i guess it’s our motherly nature. i don’t want to lose the closeness that cora and i have but i also want that with the next child. it’s tough. it seems like it is common to feel this way so that does help. thanks for posting this. i needed it! it helps to know you are not alone.