It isn’t easy being a one-income household.
There are a lot things we go with out so that I can stay home, and take care of our boys.
We hardly ever go on vacation. If we do it’s short, and to some place we can drive.
And our cars? They’re older than my five year old.
We don’t have the hottest cell phones. Our clothes are from the sales racks at Old Navy and Target instead of the newest inventory at Macy’s.
The boys aren’t enrolled in Montessori School. I’m the pre-school teacher around here.
When we do purchase something like a new computer or a Wii, we don’t go out and buy it right away. We save until we can afford it.
If the car breaks down or there’s some sort of other unexpected bill, we pay that first. Then we wait even longer for our “wants”.
I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t admit sometimes I’m envious of other moms’ spa days and luxury mini-vans with entertainment systems.
But, you know, all that stuff?
It’s just stuff.
Though our society doesn’t view it that way, things like iPhones and weekly manicures and dinners out four nights a week are really luxuries.
In some homes, and yes even in this country, just having enough food to eat dinner every night is a luxury.
I am so grateful that our needs are provided for.
I could go back to work.
Then we could go on Disney vacations every year, and I could Tweet from my Blackberry.
But I’d miss out on the one luxury that does really matter to me.
The privilege of being at home with my precious little boys every day.
Oh, sure, there are times I desperately want to talk to someone over 4 feet tall, and want to pull my hair out, and want to lock myself in the bathroom.
But most of the time I’m laughing or giving snuggles or kissing boo-boos. And that’s the stuff I don’t want to live with out.
I wouldn’t give it up for any of that other stuff.
This is heavy on my heart, because several moms have told me recently they’re going back to work even though they don’t want to.
I know the economy is bad, and it’s scary. I know you wonder some days if you’re going to make it.
If you really want to work, there’s nothing wrong with that. I don’t think everyone should be a stay-at-home-mom.
But if staying home with your children is what you truly desire, then I implore you to weigh all your options. Re-evaluate your financial priorities. Re-work your budget.
You might find a way to make it work.
It could mean giving up small things like gym memberships and designer jeans.
It could mean giving up big things, like downsizing your house or your vehicles.
Is being home with your kids every day worth it?
I think so.
What do you think?