No one and nothing makes me happy.
That’s right. I said no one and nothing makes me happy.
But I am happy.
I’m responsible for my happiness.
I hated the first job I took after college.
If I just had a better job…
I found a better job. But I still didn’t like it.
If I just had an even better job…
And I found yet another job. My third in just a little over a year. The pay was even better. The benefits were even better. But I still wasn’t happy.
Then one day I realized the problem wasn’t the job. It was me. So I decided to stop whining, and just do the best I could. A funny thing happened when I stopped the negative thoughts. Suddenly I was happy. I still had the same job, but I wasn’t miserable anymore. And doing my job well lead to even better opportunities.
Happiness isn’t ice cream, or money or even being loved by the right person.
Happiness is a choice. A choice to be content with what you have, and where you are. A choice to accept your circumstances, and make the best of them. Or a choice to move forward, change your circumstances, and not linger in a sea of bitterness.
Waiting for a better job, more money, a nicer house, a newer car or whatever it is that you desire most to make you happy won’ t work. You might get your deepest desire, but there will always be One More Thing that you need no matter how many of your wishes are granted, and you’ll never be happy.
You have a choice. Choose happiness.
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