Where do bad attitudes come from? Usually from dwelling on negative experiences. Often we give those experiences even more weight than they deserve. If we focus on them long enough they start to color how we see the world. Then we end up pessimistic, whiny, selfish and angry. So how can you turn a bad attitude into a positive one?
1. Stop focusing on yourself. You’re mad at whole world because you didn’t get what you wanted and things didn’t go your way and you deserved better and you, you, you! Stop thinking about yourself for five minutes and do something to for someone else. It can be something small like paying the bill for the guy in line behind you at Starbucks or something big like volunteering your time at a local charity.
2. Count your blessings. Replace the bad attitude with gratefulness for what you have. I love the saying, “What you take for granted someone else is praying for right now.” We don’t always realize how much we have until we take stock.
3. Hang out with other people with good attitudes. Misery loves company. If you’re negative, and you spend most of you time with negative people you’ll just feed off each other. Do you have that one friends who’s always cheerful and full of encouraging words? Call her, go to lunch, let her good nature wear off on you.
4. Develop a positive stop phrase. Bad attitudes usually involve a lot of negative inner talk. When you catch yourself having those kinds of thoughts stop and say your positive phrase to yourself instead. It will help break the bad habit of negative thoughts. Pick something encouraging and uplifting. For example, I like to use Bible verses. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
5. Have something to look forward to. Maybe circumstances beyond your control are causing your bad attitude. You can’t change them, but you can give yourself something to think about that’s pleasant. Maybe it’s the walk in the park you take every day or a trip you’re planning. It could even be something as simple as snuggling your little ones at bedtime. Thinking about the good things ahead will help you be happier now.
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